Hey guys, I thought I would start another series about issues that teenage girls are facing now. I am only 21 and it wasn't so long ago that I was a teenager, and I have faced most if not all of the issues that are in these posts. So I thought I would share my experiances and talk about ways to conqour these issues.
The first one I want to start with is bullying. I know this issue does not just concern girls, but in my experiance I have found that girls are horrible to one another. I would say that during Secondary School (11-18) most if not all girls will have been bullied at one time or another. In my experiance I have found that the reasons girls are bullied can be for the stupidest of reasons. From the colour of their hair or skin, to if they are too fat or too thin. These things really break down a girl's confidence, and this will have repercussions later on in life. Not all bullying is physical, infact I believe that the verbal and mental bullying is the worse, because what people say to you can stick in your mind years into the future, and you never know when something will trigger those memories back into your brain. I think that teenage girls are very low on self confidence anyway, and I think that this applies for both those bullied and the bullies themselves, sometimes I feel like the bullies are more insecure. My mother always used to say that the bullies are just jealous.
Another form of bullying that has been becoming more prominant is cyber bullying. As most teenagers use the internet and social media, bullies will hide behind a computer screen and say hurtful things. I have had experiance with this in later life. The only tips I can give is block the person writing those things, and delete the posts or comments the person has written. I know it doesn't stop the hurt, but it will stop you from looking back at it and making things worse for yourself. You can also report comments so that the site you are on will know what is going on.
So I am going to start talking about my experiances with bullying. I found that I was bullied a lot at school, and I believe that this was because I was an easy target. I never stood up to the people that bullied me. I would just stand by and take it. I was bullied from the age of eleven to sixteen, and I would come home 5 out of 7 days crying, and I would lock myself in my room and sometimes I wouldn't even talk to my mum, who I would tell everything. I would pretend to be ill so I wouldn't have to go to school and face the bullies, which worked for a few months, but then my mum started to cotton on and started to make me talk about what was going on. I would never talk to an adult about my problems, I used to think that talking to my mum or a teacher would cause more harm than good. But looking back I wish I had talked to someone. That is one of the tips I have for anyone who is being bullied. You need to speak to someone. There is a saying 'A problem shared is a problem halved' and that is really true. Also if you speak to a teacher if you are being bullied, they will be able to do something about it, it may be speaking to the person who is bullying you or taking the issue to someone higher in school such as your head teacher. I was bullied for a few different reasons. My hair probably being the biggest reason. I have ginger hair, as you may already be able to tell. My hair is a lot darker (naturally) than it was when I was at school. My hair was literally carrot orange, and my hair was so curly that everytime you put a brush through it it would turn into a frizzy mess. It sounds like such a stupid reason to bully someone, but I have found that a lot of people with ginger hair have been bullied at some point. I would say I made the worst mistake I could have made when being bullied for the colour of my hair. I died my hair, I was thirteen when I first died my hair. I asked my mum if I could dye my hair, she asked my what colour, thinking that it would be some kind of extreme colour, but I answered BROWN. Safe to say she was shocked. I just wanted to fit in, and I was hoping that it would stop myself being bullied. I kept my hair a brown colour until I was sixteen, and i fried my hair with straightners, so my frizz didn't show. I completly changed myself to stop any reasons to be bullied. I was still bullied any way, and also my body started changing and I became curvier than some of the other girls in my classes.
I found that when I first got a boyfriend, at sixteen. That's when things changed. Because I felt that someone liked me for who I was, my confidance bloomed and I became the bubbly and slightly excentric person you see today. I cut my hair into a quirky style and dyed my hair bright purple, and I ended up standing up to the bullies, and thats when it all stopped. I was finally free from bullying, and my confidence sky rocketed and I actually began enjoying school. It's crazy how one person can change your perception on yourself and make you become such a better person.
So here are my tips to anyone who is being bullied at the moment:
⦁ Talk to someone- As I said before, you must speak to someone. It can be a teacher, your parents or a friend. Sharing your problems will make them not seem as bad as you first percived.
⦁ Try not to sit alone and think about what they have said to you- I know this is easier said than done, but you end up making things worse if you keep thinking about things. There is a saying 'making a mountain out of a molehill' and sometimes that is what you will do in your own mind.
⦁ Don't become an intorvert- Please don't sit in your room alone and push your friends away. Try and do things and keep yourself busy. This will stop you thinking about the things the bullies have said.
⦁ Write down your feelings- I think this is a good idea for most of the issues I am going to talk about. I would suggest before you sleep, write down how you are feeling, this will get it off your chest and you will be able to sleep better.
⦁ Think about the good things in your life- While you are writing down your feelings, try and find 3 things that you like about yourself and your life. This will increase your confidence and maybe you will feel better about yourself.
I hope you have enjoyed this post and I will write the next installment soon. Thank-You and remember you are not alone!
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